And How are the Children..?

I am excited to invite you to check out my guest blog over at! As an early education coach and classroom observer, I see a lot of classroom interactions. This article is about teacher-to-teacher interactions; they are often overlooked, but critical to a positive classroom climate, and need to be factored into the quality of the students’ learning environment. Here’s a little bit to think about:

I first paid attention to the phenomenon of low positive climate (sometimes partial negative climate) between teachers when doing CLASS-based coaching in a room where both teachers were highly skilled, but would not communicate with each other beyond what was absolutely required. Each week I saw how both teachers showed strengths across all domains, but could barely be seen to make eye contact between the students’ arrival and lunch time. They spoke to each other rarely, sometimes addressing each other through the students. It was not unusual to see either of them roll their eyes and mumble to themselves as the other walked away from one of their stilted conversations. As an observer, I wondered, ‘How do they behave when I’m *not* here watching?’ and more importantly ‘How is this impacting the students?’

For the full article, visit the Teachstone Blog:

I’d love to hear your comments on your experiences with teach-to-teacher interactions, as a teacher, administrator, or observer. Please share!

As an artist, and educator and a writer, I have immense respect for the power or words. As a professional, I choose my words very carefully each day as I communicate with my clients in writing. They are the tools of my trade. My existence is wrapped up in ways of making meaning, and how words are used to relate experiences, and to motivate our actions in the world.

Yesterday I got into a debate with someone I respect very much about whether or not it is productive to publicly refer to the young men in Baltimore who are breaking things as ‘broken.’ (If you know me well, you know that I argued against that kind of labeling). This ‘brokenness’ was referenced in the context of the popular Frederick Douglass quote about ‘repairing broken men,’ which was also posted.

11008518_10155446821975696_5344724502122833224_nWhile I heartily agree with this sentiment, I disagree with the use of that quote to condemn those people in protest, and I disagreed persistently with the use of the language ‘broken.’ We went back and forth, and if you can imagine, neither of us changed the other one’s mind.

I have been reflecting on that conversation deeply since last night, feeling conflicted.The point she was making centered on how property damage and attacks on local businesses should be held to account. I certainly don’t want my car smashed – that would make things incredibly hard for my barely stable situation. I’d hate to see our neighborhood shops in flames. I want young people to be reading books, playing games, not needing angry uprising to be the way they engage in their communities. I agreed that property damage is a problem, but in the context of devalued human life and abusive systems of authority, not the best way to frame these events. I think focusing on rioting over systemic violence in a conversation about how to help those young people approaches the problem from a deficit model. During that conversation, I was told that I was angry, that I needed to review my understanding of deficit models and strength-based practice (professional lingo – this was a grad school acquaintance), and that my persistent focus on the ‘broken’ language was unfortunate. While this was hurtful, I chose to take it as an opportunity for me to really reflect on what I was trying to express. Which ultimately, is this:

‘Broken’ can mean many things. It has spiritual connotations, it can reference physical and mental health, and often is taken as pejorative. To declare one’s self broken can be a powerful act. It can lead to seeking help, and healing, and transformation. To declare someone else broken is a different thing. Especially if you are a person who holds power and privilege and you are referring to marginalized people who have been oppressed as a way of life. That, too, is a powerful act which I think does more harm than good. It reinforces the infrastructure that says we (black people, people of color, poor people) need to be controlled instead of supported. It echoes the refrain of demonizing the impoverished. I will not support that. I will not use my privileged voice to declare powerless people broken. I won’t participate in telling that story, because it isn’t true, and yet that is among the stories told most often, most loudly in our nation.

I look at little black boys in the classrooms I work with. I have often seen how they are starting to be treated differently from their peers by the adults who care for them and manage their days. I have heard teachers begin to talk about them and their parents as though they might be broken, without volunteering any language about how to fix anything. I think we do children, families and communities a disservice with this kind of talk. Because the way we talk about people reflects both how we think about them, and how we treat them. My argument is that not ‘broken’ does not necessarily apply, but that the history and political baggage of that term loads it in such as way that it cannot be used in that way without participating in that story. Sometimes (usually) history is more powerful than our personal, individual intentions. This is hard when we mean no harm, but do harm anyway. For those of us who are called to do work that lifts people up, this is an ongoing risk of our service. To get lost in our good intentions, straying from our understanding of historical context and what our power and privilege mean to those we would seek to uplift.

So, if you find yourself in a situation where you are about to publicly declare what is wrong with someone, I encourage you to take pause. I encourage you to think about  and study what is the root cause, and whether or not you can do anything about that. If you can, I encourage you to talk about that instead. If you can’t do anything about it directly, find someone who can, and amplify their signal. Make that the loudest thing you do with your voice.

Having said that, I will leave you with another Frederick Douglass quote (thanks to Kelly Hayes​):

“Those who profess to favor freedom and yet depreciate agitation, are people who want crops without ploughing the ground; they want rain without thunder and lightning; they want the ocean without the roar of its many waters. The struggle may be a moral one, or it may be a physical one, or it may be both. But it must be a struggle. Power concedes nothing without a demand. It never did and it never will.” – Frederick Douglass

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What a week.  We recovered from the blizzard, and jumped back in.  Report cards came in, and I looked at the list of grades.  I think I had what could potentially be described as a Geoffrey Canada moment; I thought to myself, ‘It isn’t enough.  How can it be?  3 hours in the afternoon, with just a few adults (however caring and creative and resourceful), in the face of all that schools and parents do not, for whatever reason, provide… How can we help more than a few of these kids?  How do we, as busy people, connect with parents who are busy people who barely have time for teachers, who are busy people (whom we should also be connecting with)?  How do we close these cracks that these bright faces are already slipping through?’

Now, don’t get me wrong.  We do help.  We change lives.  We provide opportunities that these young people might not otherwise get (like yesterday’s field trip to meet the legends of Negro League Baseball at Chicago Children’s Museum), and we provide stability, high expectations, relationships and resources for families.  We’ve helped parents and grandparents find resources to help their children with identified special needs.  Tutoring and technology education and art classes and youth councils – I have no doubt in my heart that we impact lives every day.  But how long will that impact last?  How wide is the ripple?

Serving youth and families is challenging in this way.  You do it for years, and because it is relationship-based, the outcomes are more qualitative than quantitative.  Which means you never see the full impact of what you work so hard at doing.  When you affect someone’s heart or mind, it doesn’t always show on their skin (especially if they are artfully disaffected adolescents).

Anyone who has been to this blog before today knows that Youth Development is a new field for me – I come from the world of Early Childhood.  I am challenged by the time that has already passed.  I wonder if we can pull them back from the brink so late in the game.  But I do not despair, or lose faith.  I just really need to name my fears if I’m going to get past them.  Then I remind myself:

Rome wasn’t built in a day.

Children are enormously resilient and resourceful – even past the ripe old age of 8 years.

We have no choice but to invest in these young people, and the most challenging circumstances often offer the most creative and elegant solutions.  I will be an open vessel for these solutions.

I am grateful for the opportunity to serve.


Obama’s Right-Wing School Reform | The New York Review of Books.

I wonder what people think of this article (HT to @Thanks2Teachers via Twitter for bringing it to my attention).  Please share your thoughts:

I have been disappointed with what feels like a pretty conservative approach to education reform.  *To clarify, I mean conservative in the ‘slow, cautious, playing-it-safe’ way, not as a ideological label for a group of people (i.e. the political opposite of ‘liberal.’)*  Also disappointing: support for early childhood remains insufficient, continuing to follow the ‘table scraps’ model of funding.

I don’t know anything about this author, Diane Ravitch.  Her headline is sensational.  She’s marketing a book.  But she also seems to make some sound points.  I wish she had provided some examples of possible solutions among her list of complaints and criticisms.  This piques my ongoing issue with educators: a great deal of willingness to discuss problems, but little action toward solving those problems. This is not a personal criticism of Ravitch, and may not be consistent with her record – I will have to do some reading before making that determination.  Perhaps there are solutions discussed in her book.

She does note that she is seeking leadership outside of herself – political leadership.  If she finds that leadership, I wonder how she would participate.  How do any of us engage with leaders who have taken up our cause?  How can educators really be the change we want to see in the world?

Thoughts?  Discuss!

Obama’s Right-Wing School Reform | The New York Review of Books.

Here’s a bit of reflection on the Leadership Connections conference. I will share more detailed reflections later, but now that I’m home, it’s my turn to feed and bathe the kids. I can’t wait to tell about some of the amazing people I met (like the D.C. Ladies!), and the great moments of learning and reflection. Until then, I leave you with these thoughts.

What a day! 2 Skill-building sessions, a few minutes with the kids, and a cavalcade of talented, amazing colleagues in early childhood care and education.

I started the day with Lori Jensen’s session: Leaving a Strengths-Based Legacy. This was a coaching skills workshop, where the very energetic Lori Jensen (Ph.D.) described myriad practical ways to learn about making the best use of people’s strengths. She presented this somewhat counterintuitive idea, which turns out to make a lot of sense: Don’t try too much to improve on weaknesses, but rather invest most of your time and energy in improving things that people are already good at. Jensen shared a good-sized bucket of research that supports this notion. We did a few group activities, plenty of reflection on our own experiences, and had a good group discussion.

Don't Get So Upset - T. Jacobson

Don't Get So Upset - T. Jacobson

After lunch, I bought a new book: ‘Don’t Get So Upset!: Help Young Children Manage their Feelings by Understanding Your Own” by Tamar Jacobson, Ph.D. I’m very excited about this (though I really wanted to get Perspectives on Gender in Early Childhood – edited by Jacobson, but it was cost prohibitive, alas) because I read Jacobson’s ‘Confronting Our Discomfort’ during my graduate internship and found it to be so transformative: a great foundational text for someone studying Anti-Bias Education. These days, finding the balance between patience and anger are more challenging than ever before, so I appreciate finding a book that touches on that topic by an author whom I admire. I’ll let you know how the book goes if I ever get a chance to read it. Just kidding – I’ll find time. I will.

Second session: One Size Doesn’t Fit All – The Coach’s Role in Professional Development, by Cate Heroman. Somehow, I did not consciously realize how my conference choices had all coalesced around the theme of ‘coaching.’ The pre-conference seminar and both of today’s workshops were all about coaching, consultation and leadership. In today’s afternoon session, Cate Heroman talked about the kinds of mentors that have the greatest impact on our lives, and the traits that we brainstormed reflected what the opening keynote speaker talked about when he described characteristics of leaders, for example trust. Trust keeps coming up again and again – I guess because these topics have to do with relationship-based support (i.e. coaching and consultation). The opening keynote talked about that, too. Trust and building relationships to move forward. These themes were reflected again later on in the evening during the Fireside Chats.

Heroman ran a fun, focused workshop. The conversation was pretty lively, and she has a spark of fun that lightens the experience. Prior to the session, I took the opportunity to introduce myself as a Twitter friend. It’s a strange, but fun experience meeting people in real life after piecing together online relationships based on brief comments, web links, and tiny photographs.

Enjoyed meeting Twitterfriend Cate Heroman IRL!

After the afternoon session, I spent a few rejuvenating minutes with my family. My dear, dear husband came up to pick up milk for our one-year-old, and I was so pleased to see them when I opened my hotel room door! As great as it is to have the Heavenly Bed to myself, I’ve missed them, and have definitely gotten a boost from seeing them, however briefly. Same with the ‘Say goodnight’ calls at bedtime. I thank my husband for his support and participation.

The Champions for Change Dinner with Paula Jorde Bloom and Teri Telan was enjoyable – good food and good conversation. I had the pleasure of sitting next to Maria Gandara of Sunshine Learning Home & Day Care – a tireless local advocate for children and families, and home-based child care providers, especially. She was vocal about desire among home-based providers for the development of a credential that addresses their unique service issues and competencies, which turned out to be a pretty hot topic of conversation. I listened a lot and didn’t talk much (a rarity), and afterward made my way to the fireside chat, which turned out to be a anniversary celebration of McCormick Center for Early Childhood Leadership (25 years!) as well as a surprise celebration of the career and work of Paula Jorde Bloom.

Luis Hernandez facilitates.

Luis Hernandez

After a hilarious introduction by Luis Hernandez (McCormick Center for Early Childhood Leadership Advisory Board member), people took turns describing how their careers had progressed and how they experienced Dr. Bloom’s influence, or been involved with MCECL over the years. What an invaluable set of accounts, not just for the sentimental value, but also for the historical perspective available in the telling of these stories that overlap and intertwine over decades. I was so pleased to be there to hear it. How inspiring! Advisory board members shared their stories, and then everyone in the room had a chance to share their experiences of how Dr. Bloom and the McCormick Center for Early Childhood Leadership had touched their lives, and the lives of people they serve (someone from Singapore got up to tell Dr. Bloom that she has touched many lives in her country as well).  This is where that theme of trust and leadership was revisited – a few people related their experiences of Paula’s exceptional leadership, and that it has been characterized by trust, among other things.  It must feel very good to have all of the themes of your leadership conference culminate in a discussion about your leadership.  What a legacy!

Then there was coffee and cake. A lovely end to a very full day.

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I feel as though this experience is coming to a head, but I’m too tired to reflect on it properly. Trust me, though: once it all sinks in, I will break it all down. Until then…

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